You take them OUT?????

IG, SnapChat, Facebook...these are places we go to showcase to the world what we are currently doing. Whether it's on vacation, at the nail salon, movies, dinner or park most of us have posted a little part of our lives on the internet. But when did it become mandatory?????

One day a friend of mine sent me a text asking if I wanted to accompany her and her kids to the Circus. But when I advised her that we already went her comment made me squint me eyes and re-read the text as if she was speaking a foreign language.

Her comment "Oh, Well you didn't post that you went on IG so I didn't know you already took your kids" made me realize how much people actual view your life through social media. (Who Knew??)

It took me 10 mins to respond to her because I wanted to make sure I came off friendly yet informative.  

My response "Yes girl, I took them to the circus on Tuesday. Next time you want to do something with the kids call me because I hardly post what I do with my children and I like to live in the moment when it comes to them. We are actually at the movies right now so I will hit you up later."

In the era we live in if you don't post every aspect of your life people assume that your not doing anything. If you don't post your mate they will assume your single or hiding them. If you don't post your children they assume you are not a good mother. When did having to prove something to strangers become the normal? Why would I be judged if I don't show pictures of me and my children on vacation, out eating, at an event?

The last time I checked my social media had my name on it not my children's name. Yes I post a few pictures of them but I choose what I want to post. I'm sure when my teenage son decides to get any social media account I will NOT be all over his page. LOL

 I came from the era of parents who took there kids out without having to broadcast it to the world. My father was a photographer and my parents walls are filled with child hood memories. But what I remember the most is them being PRESENT and in the moment. Not stopping me from being a kid to take 100 pictures just so they can upload 1 picture to THEIR social media account.  Most of the best pictures my parents have are not staged anyway.

85% of your followers are strangers and I'm sure they did not request me to see pictures of my 2 years old eating cotton candy at Coney Island or a video of my son showing me how to dab. 

But hey, What do I know!

I'm Back....

Well hello everyone.

I'm finally back after a two year break. So much has changed in my life and I can't wait to share my new journey with you. Lets start with an update on my crazy kids.

Anthony is now a 15 year old. Yeah, that "YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND MOM" stage. The world is on my shoulders stage.  The I want to give him back stage. Thank god I have a good 10 year break before I have to encounter another teenager in my house.

Tonio is now a 5 year old chatter box in the body of Sonic the Hedge Hog. From 7am - 8:30pm he is on the go. Between doing back flips off the couch and having nervous breakdowns when his sister knocks over the lego house he tries to build everyday he is never ready to take a nap.

Ariana is now 2 years old and she runs this house. I've never meet a toddler who requires 45 mins of down time after being in daycare. A change of clothes, her Boo-Boo aka Pacifier and her crib must be ready as soon as she reaches home.


My days are longer and my nights are shorter but I wouldn't change it. (Maybe for a couple of million dollars.😂😂😂😂) I'm just joking, or am I???

Time to take you back on this crazy ride with me.

ENJOY!

Questions with Tonio

Welcome Back, Welcome Back, Welcome BACKKKKKKK.

It was a cool, hot, crazy summer with the Phillip Clan. I will definitely recap for you guys in a few days.

So I was talking to my younger son Antonio the other night during dinner and decided to ask him a few questions just to see what his response would be. The answers to my questions amazed me. For a 4 year old he has an amazing understanding about LIFE. Now when I say understanding I really mean IMAGINATION.

Me: Tonio, how was school today?
Tonio: It was good.
Me: What did  you do?
Tonio: Color and not listen to the teacher.
Me: Why weren't you listening to the teacher?
Tonio: Because it's Monday
Me: HMMM, OK so you like your dinner?
Tonio: Yes, I love Pasta and Ketchup
Me: But we eating rice and chicken.
Tonio: I know.
Me: Who cooks better Me or your Nana?
Tonio: Nana
Me: Who cooks better Me or Daddy?
Tonio: You because Daddy doesn't cook
Me: Daddy should start to cook right?
Tonio: No, Girls suppose to cook while the boys lay down and watch tv.
Me: OH OK

Uptown Kidz Mas for Kiddies Carnival BK NY 2015

Hello Everyone.

I've been super busy this summer. Here is one project I've been working on.

With everything already being so busy I decided why not continue my kids mas band I started in 2013. LOL (Yes I know I'm late)

Uptown Kidz presents "Once Upon a Bugs Life"
For any more info please feel free to contact us at uptownkidzmas@gmail.com
All costumes are affordable and go for ages 6 months - 14 yrs old.
If you are looking for an individual costume please contact us at the email above.

U didn't have a choice!

Change is always good RIGHT?

Well last year my husband and I decided to move our family from America to the beautiful island of Trinidad W.I.. Many people thought we were crazy but even more people gave us words of encouragement and blessing along our new journey. After the initial shock of hearing that we moved the next question out of almost everyone's mouth was "How have the kids adjusted?".
At first I use to go into detail regarding how they are adjusting until I realized that at the end of the day MY KIDS had no choice in this move.

We now live in a society where Dogs are treated better than humans, Loyalty is lost and Children are giving choices. When I was growing up we had NO CHOICES, NO OPTIONS. My parents always said if we wanted an opinion we need to get a job, and move out. You ate whatever they cooked, you wore whatever clothes they bought, you played with whatever toys they gave you and went where your parents sent you. POINT, BLANK, PERIOD.

When did it become ok to ask a 12 year old if he wanted to move? When did it become ok to ask a 3 year old if he rather stay in the cold or in the sun? As a parent who grow up in the 80's (the last of the good breed) I decided to raise my kids on the motto my parents raised me on "What I Say GOES!".

If we decide to move to the North Pole and live in an Igloo, well guess what Anthony, Antonio and Ariana should pack some long johns. So now when people ask me about how my kids are adjusting to the move my answer is "They don't have any choice but to adjust".

I Love U, but I Don't Like U

Can you love your children but not like them at the same time??

APSOLUTLY.

I use to struggle with the fact that although I truly love my children at some point during any giving day I would become annoyed, upset, and even angry at them. Being a stay at home mom made it even more difficult because I didn't have an outlet during the day. I didn't have a lunch time where I could sit down and talk to people of my own age. There was no water cooler gatherings to look forward to while I had a break. It was just diapers, Dora, tantrums and lots of bottle washing all day.  After a while any person will be frustrated. I started to think that there was something wrong with me. Until one day while I cleaned up the cake that my 3 yr old rubbed all over the floor and his baby sister he turned and asked me if I still loved him?. The only words that came out my mouth were "I Love you Tonio, but I don't like you right now". He just said ok, and walked away. "Who Know??"

Right then I realized that it was ok to not like your kids at some point. There is nothing in the world that would change the love we have for our children, but we honestly don't have to like them all the time either.

I'm Back

Hello Happy People.

I'm back from a month long Blogcation. I have lots to talk about. From attitudes, discipline, to vacation fun.

It's summer time, schools out and the kids are ready to drive you all crazy.

One a ligther note, wine is cheap and can be bought almost anyplace now.